Monday 5 August 2013

Stigmatising Those Who Do It Properly

Once again the MPs have shown that they could not think their way out of a wet paper bag.

George Osborne will have at some point today unveiled his scheme to give up to £1,200 of taxpayers funded child-care per child to families where both parents have a job, apparently to encourage women back into the workplace.

This from the Government who swore, among many other things, to up hold traditional values.  Well I'm sorry but one of the most fundamental traditional values is mothers staying at home to look after their children and bring them up in caring, loving homes to be well rounded young people, instead of leaving the hard work to someone else to do.

Having already taken about $2000 a year from families who's bread winner earns over £50,000 a year (which is not a lot when you take into consideration that it amounts to approximately £4,167 a month and rent alone is at least £250 in the public housing sector) he now wants to rub salt into the wound by characterising stay-at-home-mothers as outside of the group who "want to work hard and get on in life."

Well excuse me Mister Osborne but those of us who have had to sacrifice our careers to take care of a family member (be that a parent taking care of a child, or a child taking care of a disabled parent) do work hard.  We work damn hard.  We work twenty four hours, seven days a week and all for the sum of £750 pounds a month.  Is there any nurse in the NHS who would be willing to work those hours for that amount of money?  I seriously doubt it.

A stay-at-home-mother who does her job properly is nursemaid, cleaner, laundrette worker, chef, bottle washer, child psychologist, first aid nurse, jury and judge, social service overseer, teacher, logistics coordinator, accountant, bargain hunter, taxi driver, DIY mate, shoulder to cry on and play mate.  At that's just for starters.

When you look at that list you begin to understand why it used to be said that if a man had to pay his wife for all the work she does then no man would be able to afford a wife.

I fully agree with Mrs Laura Perrins of Mothers at Home Matter when she says:

"Children have a right to be brought up by their parents and this government is doing all they can to separate mothers from their children."

My sister and I endured six years of abuse in school from our classmates, mostly mental and emotional but sometimes physical abuse straying into the edge of sexual.  It has taken both of us many years to recover from it, not help by the fact that we could not understand why.  Neither of us where popular, sporty, or very beautiful.  We were both alright academically and we weren't richer than the rest of them because once we were children of a divorced Mother then we were stuck on benefits.  Despite what the newspapers will tell you, you cannot get rich on benefits if you are honest and we were honest.  However, time and space has finally given me the eyes to see it.

Out of both our classes we were pretty much the only ones who's mother did not work.  Instead of coming home to a house that had been empty all day and needing to fix our own dinners, we came home to a home that had been cleaner, tidied and dinner was waiting for us.  My sister and I were bullied mercilessly because we had a Mother who made us her job, who put all her time and effort into us and made us the best home she could with what little we had.  In short, we had something they didn't have and they wanted it and when they couldn't have it because mum was coming home from work each day tried out and grouchy, they took their frustration out on my sister and me.

And besides all the children who are going to suffer because they don't have a proper mother, the basic foundation on which the government is justifying this madness is flawed.

Danny Alexander is quoted as saying:

"The Government wants to build a stronger economy and a fairer society and key to that is getting more people into work.  We won't let childcare costs stand in the way of parents' ability to work if they want to."

What would make a fairer society is if each family could have at least one parent in work.  However, that cannot happen while nearly half of those jobs are being taken up by Mother's who work for money instead of work to raise their children.  If the government wants to build a fairer society then they should be encouraging Mother's to stay at home and bring up their children so Mother's will once again be valued for what they do best.  That would leave more jobs open for Father's and young people to fill.  That way men would once more be valued as the breadwinners of the family and students wouldn't end up in debt.

Of course what would really make a strong economy would be if all those fat cat MPs took a pay cut and used that freed up money to build Britain an industry again by gathering up and recycling that Texas sized island of rubbish floating in the Pacific.  What is more, once we had recycled it, we could sell the raw material back to the rest of the world.  While the human race continued making rubbish, Britain would never be out of a job but when will MPs ever be decent and take that pay cut needed to start it?

I'm not holding my breath.

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